Moving in together with someone you love is possibly the best milestone in a relationship. It may be exciting. However, no matter how much you love him/her when you stay together you understand the person’s true nature. In this story like any boyfriend girlfriend they too were thrilled to move in together until the girl told him to hold on to the idea. Read the story to find the reason and let us know what your opinion is about it.
I’m 20F, my boyfriend is 24M. We’ve been dating for a while, and are thinking about moving in together. Right now he still lives at home, I have my own apartment. The idea would we’d find a bigger apartment together.
Here’s the problem, in a different conversation he dropped ‘I’d wear a nice shirt out, but I don’t know if my mom has done laundry yet.’ I was surprised, and asked him if his mom always did his laundry. That’s how this conversation started.
Turns out, his mom does everything. And I do mean everything. He can’t cook anything, doesn’t know how to clean anything, never had to budget his money..
I told him I didn’t want to move in with him until he could at least do the basic things. I’m scared of taking on the teacher/mom role in the relationship, and not being able to escape it, if that makes sense.
I told him that I enjoy cooking, and if he spends weekends here I’d have no problem teaching him then. But he needs to learn the basics of cleaning somewhere else. And that maybe we should wait a bit before getting an apartment together.
He doesn’t like that, at all. He’s annoyed that I don’t trust him to learn these things, and that I don’t want to teach him, so I must not care about him that much.
I genuinely like him, but I’m pretty busy. I’d rather spend our time together hanging out, than showing him how to vacuum or do laundry. Plus I just don’t enjoy taking on that role.
I suggested he ask his mom, he doesn’t want to. He wants to move in together ‘and then we’ll figure it out’.. that scares me.
Am I an idiot for not wanting to teach him, and wanting to wait to move in until I know he can (and will) do some things?
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