Family gatherings are great. There may be family members of different age groups. Every individual has their own say but it’s important to respect each one’s point of view. When a family reunion happens I believe all should be together in one table. However in this family gathering there was a difference of opinion. Read the story and let us know who you think was right.
I haven’t seen my full family together in quite some time, so they set up a get together at a park today. The family gathering includes me (22m), my brother (21), my sister (25), her husband (29) and their two kids, my dad, step-mom and her kids (6 and 9) aunt, uncle, my two cousins (15 and 20), grandma, and grandpa.
I get there with some picnic items (I brought a quiche and the cups) and see a few members setting up. I say hi and help set up the tables and set the food out. We talk and play games while the others show up. When everyone gets there, we sit down to eat. I sit next to my dad and get a weird look from my aunt as she says to me, “this is the adult’s table.” To which I reply, “I am an adult(?).”
She tells me that the 1st and 2nd generations are considered adults and the 3rd and 4th generations should sit at the kid’s table since we “don’t have much to contribute to adult conversations.”
I tell her that I can drink, that I drove here, that I pay rent and have a job, so how am I still considered a child? She says that until I have kids of my own I’ll have to sit at the kid’s table.
According to my aunt, there are 8 children (ages 6-22) and 8 adults (ages 25-75) so I should just sit at the kid’s table since it’ll be even, but there is plenty of space at the adult table and I don’t want to be stuck with 5 literal children. She still disagrees and at this point my uncle and grandparents back her up, so I say f*** it, take my quiche back, tell them to have a nice day, and drive away.
I got a few texts telling me to come back by my dad and grandparents. I ask if my aunt is going to apologize and they ask “for what?” That was enough for me to disregard their other messages and calls until I got home, where I am now.
I feel sh**ty that I may have possibly ruined a nice family gathering, but feel my family doesn’t respect me at all, enough to say that I am still a child and apparently have the same mentality as 6 year olds.
What would you do in his position? Here a few opinion on the story on Reddit: