Karma is an otherworldly conviction that is regarding circumstances and logical results. The reasoning is that assuming you put great into the world, great returns to you. Assuming that you decide to cause damage, indeed, you can’t swindle karma. The sentiment stays the same, whether we refer to it as the Golden Rule or as “do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Kindness is important. Treat people with love and care you never know what life has stored in for you.
I’m adopted. My brother and sister are bio kids. I had some issues in my teenage years and wasn’t the perfect kid but my brother was a bit wild too. However since I’m the adopted one my “siblings” have always given me extra sh** for my failings.
A few years ago dad got sick so I moved home to help him and mom out. I contributed to bills, took care of dad, took care of the dogs, cooked everyday, cleaned and worked full-time myself and just really tried to be as helpful as possible. I even offered to pay rent but my mom said no.
Cut to me having a car accident going to pick up dad’s meds and dad and mom buying me a used car so I could keep taking dad to appointments and as a thank you for all the help. Well my siblings came for that Xmas, heard about the car and freaked out. They said I didn’t deserve anything and that I was using mom and dad. My brother cornered me and said as soon as dad died I had a month to move out and “stop leeching” off mom or else.
Dad passed shortly after that Xmas and I began planning my move and mom was really upset. She kept pushing me to stay but in the back of my head I had my brother’s threat and just didn’t feel comfortable staying. I ended up getting a place just up the street so I could still help her.
After I moved I ended up getting really lucky financially. I was within a year of renting and able to buy a house near mom and have been doing well for myself. Last year my mom’s sister who also was also recently widowed came to live with her and brought her two grandkids. She is the guardian so my mom’s house is full and she’s happy. I help out and watch the kids a lot and still do most of the house maintenance stuff so I’m over a lot.
On one of my visits my mom and aunt were discussing what to do because my brother needed to move home since his wife kicked him out. I offered to get the kids bunk beds and help move them into one room and my mom was very grateful. A week later my brother called asking if he could just live with me since he didn’t want to share a house with two kids.
I have a spare room but I don’t want to live with him. He’s treated me like sh** for 10+ years at this point and never has a nice thing to say behind my back usually from my teenage years when I was struggling. He is vocal about not considering me family. He’s said he doesn’t want me at our mothers funeral or in her will (I don’t want anything from her and never ask for anything she just offers things sometimes). The animosity is palpable. I would offer to take in one of the kids but they are young and need to be with their caretaker so I think he just needs to suck it up and stay with my mom.
My mom knows how he is to me and would never ask me to take him in, but my aunt is confused why I wouldn’t offer that as it makes sense and another person in my mom’s house will make it cramped. Some friends are saying after all my mom is done for me I should suck it up and let her son my “brother” stay with me but I really don’t want to.
What would you do? Any advice?
Here are a few comments on the story where it was originally posted: