Marriage is a beautiful phase in life. Beside love, trust, communication the most important factor in a healthy marriage is respect. A husband has no right to demean his wife front of anybody and vice versa. Read the story and let us know whether the wife’s reaction to her husband being disrespectful towards her was vaild or not.
My husband Jared and I have been married for 3 years. He’s currently out of work (used to work at a high paying job but got kicked out of the company over a fight with a coworker and I’m the one paying for rent and utilities.
We dedicate some time to see his family weekly. They don’t know he’s unemployed because he thought they’ll see him as a failure especially his mom so he told me to keep it a secret.
Last night we were sitting eating dinner at the table. His cousin was talking about his fiancee going to brazil to do a boob job. Jared asked if he was serious then “flattered” FSIL’s boobs saying they’re perfect and that he didn’t understand why she’d get a boob job. He then turned to me, stared at my chest while I was eating like an idiot (I have a flat chest, I’m insecure about it but can’t do anything about it obviously) and said “Hey why don’t YOU get a boob job, you’re the one who needs it the most”.
His mom gasped and was like “JARED!??” I said “It’s fine!” I then turned to him and said “I’ll get a boob job once YOU get an ACTUAL JOB since you’ve been unemployed for 6 months now$!!”, He stared at me in disbelief. His mom began questioning him about being unemployed and he denied denied denied then admitted it was true. It got awkward with his mom scolding him and others shaming him for it and for hiding it. He got so overwhelmed he went outside and stayed inside the car till I came.
He started yelling at me repeatedly “you couldn’t have held your effing tongue?!!”, And accused me of turning his family against him and having them judge then shun him now he can’t even step a foot in their house from shame and guilt. I argued that his comment about my chest was insulting, but he said he was giving me a piece of advice and that there is nothing wrong with him wanting me to look pretty and that he said what he said out of support and encouragement, but I what I did was the complete opposite and that it was intended to hurt him and I succeeded.
He dropped me off at home then went to stay with his buddies. I called him later thinking he calmed down but his friend said he didn’t want to speak to me and I should give him space. Did I go too far here? Did I overreact?
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