Pregnancy may be a stressful period for a woman. They may endure physical symptoms such as nausea, exhaustion, and back pain, as well as emotional changes as a result of hormone swings. As a result, it is critical for their spouse to give support and understanding at this time. Read the story to know why a conflict took place between this pregnant woman and her husband and what would you do in this situation?
I (32f) am expecting my first child with my husband Paul (36m). Fake names.
I’m currently 10 weeks pregnant and my biggest pregnancy issue is fatigue and, mainly, cravings and hunger. No matter what I do, I cannot seem to stay full. I eat all day but have managed to still lose 3 pounds.
Problem is we don’t always have what I want. So a few times a week, I stop at the store on my way home from work and stock up on my favorite snacks. Pizza, pickles, fruit (especially oranges, grapes and watermelon), popcorn, chicken noodle soup, string cheese, etc. I’ve been doing this for about 5 weeks.
But every time I check the fridge, almost all my snacks are gone. I keep telling Paul to stop eating my food and he says that it’s not a big deal and I can just get more. But the act involves me (not him) stopping at the store more and me (again, not him) spending more of my money.
Last week, I just snapped. I had bought my favorite ice cream: Neapolitan. I put it in the freezer and decided to take a nap before writing a paper (I’m currently getting my masters). I planned to have a bowl when I woke up and began working on it.
When I woke up, I went to the freezer and saw it had been opened. Now, I can’t eat an entire quart of ice cream all by myself, so I wasn’t mad that he had some until I saw what he did to it. My husband ate all of the strawberry side and left me with just the vanilla and chocolate. And the strawberry is my favorite part.
I got mad and started yelling at him. He told me it was unreasonable of me to bring food in the house and not expect him to have any of it. But I told him that wasn’t what I expected but he knew that was my favorite ice cream and my favorite part of it was all gone and he’s always eating my snacks. He just told me to run to the store and get some more. So I just went back upstairs because he wasn’t listening.
I opened my laptop and ordered a full sized fridge ($2300), paid for from my personal savings account that he has never contributed to. My husband and I don’t mingle our accounts together so he never saw I bought it until two days ago when it was delivered to our house. He came home from work and saw it plugged in our garage.
He asked why there were locks on it and how much it cost. I told him not to worry about how much it cost and there are locks on it to make sure he doesn’t eat all my snacks for my cravings. He said I can’t control what he eats, and I told him not. I’m just controlling who eats my snacks but the fridge in the house is open and he can have whatever is in that and the cabinets, but the fridge in the garage is for me only.
I haven’t had to go to the store at all this weekend and all my food is locked up, but Paul is not speaking to me for two reasons: for making a large purchase without talking to him first and for “turning food into a war” (his words). Did I go too far here?
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