Money is one of the most contentious issues in most couples. However, as this example demonstrates, answering some of these difficult questions might sometimes exacerbate rather than decrease tensions in a relationship. After her grandfather died, she acquired a sizable sum from his inheritance. The scenario became more problematic when the woman’s boyfriend, with whom she was living, voiced his desire for her to step up with their bills and utilize part of her riches to support their rent. Read the story and let us know how you would handle this situation.
My grandpa passed away a few months ago and I inherited a little over $4 million from his estate. I had no idea he had that much money and was honestly not expecting to receive anything, as I assumed it would all go to my mom.
After I got over the initial shock, I took the opportunity to finally quit my job (which I really hated), as I don’t have any outstanding debts and can easily live off of $40,000 a year. I’m pretty introverted and am more than happy to stay at home working on art/music/other interests and gaming.
Ever since I inherited the money, my boyfriend has been pressuring me to cover all of the rent and utilities (about $1200 a month) for our apartment and start putting money away into a joint savings fund. I would be happy to do this if we were married, but we’re not. We’ve only been dating for a year and a half, and I would prefer to keep our finances separate. Despite not working anymore, I still pay my half of the rent every month and have started paying for a housekeeper to come in and clean a few times a week, so our apartment is nearly always spotless and looks great.
I told my boyfriend he isn’t entitled to my money and he said I was being selfish for expecting him to still contribute to the rent when I could easily afford to pay for the whole thing. I need some advice on if I’m wrong ? What should I do?
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