My (M57) daughter (32) has been divorced thrice already. She got married at 25 to the love of her life. I have her $15,000 as help for the wedding. Marriage lasted 3 years.
She married the love of her life when she was 30. I have her $5,000 for a much smaller, more intimate wedding. Marriage lasted one year.
She married the guy that got her pregnant while she was married to never two. They divorced before my grandson was one.
She has met the love of her life and needs money for the wedding.
I said I would help her with the next one.
Now she is crying to her mother calling me an a**h**e for not believing in her future.
I have managed to stay married for 33 years. It’s not that difficult.
My wife wants me to make peace by giving her some money. But I think it’s a waste.
Your call. Am I the a**h**e for my bad attitude towards my daughter’s relationship?
I am not trying to change anyone’s mind here. I feel that I insulted people when I said “It’s not that difficult” so I feel like I should explain what I meant. I met my wife when she was married to a guy I worked with. He passed away in an industrial accident. I saw it happen. After the funeral we became friends. Three years later we realized we cared for each other so we started dating. We have had our ups and downs and we have gone for counseling when we went through a really rough patch. We work hard at being there for each other.
My wife is beautiful and probably had many opportunities to be unfaithful but chose to stay with me and work on our marriage. I saw all the young guys my age having fun and partying when I was using my wages to pay for my son’s medical bills and such. I also chose to stay and work on my marriage. I don’t remember who said it but it applies in marriage as well. “In war everything is simple. But even the simplest things are difficult”.
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