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My mom met her husband when I was 17 and she married him after five months of knowing him. I was already living with my grandparents so I could attend college when he moved in with her. So we never lived together. He never parented me or put a roof over my head or any of the stuff that some might say makes him worthy of playing Father of the Bride. He’s an okay guy but I don’t love him or feel particularly close to him. He’s just my mom’s husband and the father to my half siblings she had with him once I was already moved out.
My mom has apparently decided though, that he has done “so much for me” that I should be making him FOTB at my wedding and have him walk me down the aisle. My dad died when I was still a baby so mom doesn’t count him, even though they were married and everything. Though they were both very young so maybe she didn’t give a sh*t about him and only married him because she got pregnant. IDK. But she was talking about her husband. He was acting like he expected it too and was talking about how I’d need to be introduced to some of his friends and coworkers so when I invited them, they identified me as his daughter. I thought it was crazy. The man is not my parent and he’s only family on a technicality but we are not close, we hardly see each other ever.
I told my mom it wasn’t going to happen. She went crazy and accused me of being ungrateful and told me I was being disrespectful and how he could not walk his kid down the aisle. I told him he could walk THEIR children down the aisle some day but he was never my parent and I was never his kid so he was not walking me. He was offended as hell. He told me he’d never do anything for me again. I asked him what he had done. He said he took care of my mom and gave me siblings and he put me through college (he didn’t). He said if those things weren’t appreciated then why did he even bother. Mom told me I should be worshiping the ground he walks on because he’s been such a good dad. She called me selfish some more and then I just walked out and blocked her. But she told my grandparents (her parents) and they asked if I could do it to show I appreciate him for being there for mom and for being kind to me. I told them he wasn’t very kind to me there and I pointed out that my uncle, dad’s brother, was already doing it. They told me it would be kind to let him.
What should I do? Can I even do anything?
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