It’s challenging to have a mixed family. It takes time and a lot of effort to build a connection with your stepfather, stepmother, or even step siblings. Read the story to know what happened at dinner in this blended family and what would you do in such a situation.
I’m (20m) currently living with my mom full time since my dad is working out of the country. She has a husband and he has 2 daughters from a previous marriage (12F and 14F) and my half-sibling (6M), my mom’s husband is unemployed because he was abruptly terminated, both of them do gigs here and there while he looks for a job but they barely bring money to the house. I’m in my second year of uni, working and getting money from my dad, every month, I’ve been paying for most of my stuff (clothes, hobbies, phone bill, etc) ever since I was 16 and when I turned 18 I began to pay rent and for my car.
My mom’s husband and his daughters are big eaters, I don’t mind, I just started to buy my own groceries and they knew they weren’t allowed to have any (tho, I’d let my step-sisters take some of my snacks because I get they’re kids), but ever since 3 or 4 months ago, my mom has been asking me to ”buy this, buy that, buy this again” and I’ve been doing their groceries too, so I’m basically paying for all of the food, plus rent, plus driving my step-sister to and from school and among other things.
Yesterday we were having dinner together and I remembered I’d bought a watermelon a few days ago, it was almost all gone, but I could eat the last of it and it was okay. My step-sister said she wanted some too and I said there was barely anything left and she could have an apple of something, she said she wanted watermelon and I said sorry. My mom’s husband said kids go first but I said kids have been eating watermelon for the past days and it was my turn, he looked me dead in the eye and said ”Put it back, son. You can eat something else” so I just said I’ll be eating whatever I want because I was paying for it. Nobody said anything after that and I took it to my room.
Later my mom came and apologized for him, but said that I shouldn’t have said anything in front of my sisters and was rude, because I was being ”financially abusing” with my family, so IDK? What are your opinions? What else could I do?
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