Bride Bans Guests With Gifts Worth Lesser Than $300. Rules Say: “No Facial Hair” And Women With Long Hair “Must Have It Cut.”
It’s unusual enough to get a wedding invitation that includes a set of guidelines that every single attendee is required to follow. The bride in this story not only devised a set of unique regulations, but she also said that any visitor who refused to observe them would be forced to leave the wedding grounds.
So, I’m in the middle of a sh*tstorm and need some advice on if I’m wrong.
My sister is getting married in less than 3 weeks. I haven’t been involved in the planning as I have my own life but from what my mom has relaid to me it’s been a nightmare. My sister wants a “fancy” wedding and is micro-managing everything. I have no idea how normal this is but from what I’ve heard she broke down crying when her fiance bought the wrong shade of white napkins. Her and both my and the groom’s parents have invested a lot of money into this to the tune of over 50k.
In my opinion I think the whole ordeal is ridiculous but it’s not really my place to say anything. At least until yesterday. An email was sent out to everyone invited to the wedding with “attendance requirements”. These requirements were a joke. Some of them were just nonsensical like what color ties are and aren’t allowed or that no one can talk to the wife or groom alone. But some were absurd like the fact that no one is supposed to take pictures except the photographer for the whole event, no facial hair will be allowed or you will not be pictured, or that any women with shoulder length or longer hair must have it cut or wear it in a ponytail. The worst though were the “gift requirements”. According to the email a gift of 300$ value or more MUST be given (or $250 cash) or you will not be allowed into the venue. The email also ends with “Those who choose not to follow these rules will be asked to leave. Please think of the bride and groom’s wishes during this stressful time”
This is a joke, right? Like I can understand micromanaging but that’s just absurd. I called my mom to make sure this was not a late April fools joke and it was real. I told her that I won’t be going because of this. That was wrong apparently because my sister has been blowing me up saying that I’m being selfish and that I’m ruining her day. My parents agree with her and say I’m being a Jerk. My parents have told me that they will pay for my gift but I still think that all of these rules are a joke. Would I be in the wrong if I skipped out on the wedding? Please don’t be afraid to criticize. Thank you for your time in advance.
Here are a few comments on the story where it was originally posted: