Dad Tells Teacher To “%^&$ Off” After She Demands He Invite Entire Class To Son’s Birthday Party.

Birthday celebrations for children are happy occasions. They do, however, cause a considerable amount of stress in both children and adults. Parents want to make their children happy by planning a special day for them. In this story a parent got into an argument with the kid’s teacher when she informed him that if he wants to hold a party for his son, he must invite every member of his son’s class. Scroll down to know what happened and let us know with whom you agree.

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I got a call from my son’s (6) teacher today. Let’s say her name is Ms. Goldbaum. She says hi are you Al’s (fake name) father? I say yes and ask if everything is Ok. She tells me that she understands he is having a birthday party and that he invited a few of his friends from class, but not everyone. I said yeah, there are a few kids in there that he has problems with and also I don’t think we can really handle hosting 24 kids and their parents.

She then tells me that there is a rule that if any kids in the class are invited that all kids in the class are invited. I told her it is an event off school hours on private property in my home. She can no more tell me what I do there and who I can and can’t invite anymore than I can decide who is invited to her Thanksgiving dinner.

She then tells me there is a good reason for the rule since kids get their feelings hurt if they get left out. So then I pointed out to her that there are 24 kids in the class. If their parents attend the party with them then that can be upwards of 72 people and I told her that’s just not a reasonable thing to ask. I also point out that he has friends from other classes attending, so do I have to invite that whole other class too? She then said “Al is in my class. He is under my supervision. This is my rule.” I then told her that Al is only under her supervision while he was in class. I am the one throwing the party, and she doesn’t get to make rules for my house or me. She then said if it involves her class, she does.

After a bit of back and forth on this, I lost my cool. I said “Lady, it’s pretty clear that you’re too used to bossing around kids who have to listen to you and that you don’t seem to understand that your little fiefdom ends at the end of the school day and doesn’t go further than schoolhouse gates. I am not a 6 year old in your class. I’m a 38 year old union electrician planning a private event in my own home, off school hours. If you think you’re the one to make the rules for me, in my home on which I pay the mortgage on, you can go $%^& yourself and there isn’t a goddamn thing you can do about it.” She then kind of stammered and I ended the call.

My wife agrees that the school has no business telling us who we can and can’t invite into our home and that they don’t make rules for our house. However, she says I went too far in telling Ms Goldbaum to go $%^k herself. I am very comfortable with telling her that she has no right to tell us who we can and can’t invite into our home and that it is crazy I might have to invite up to 72 people for my son to have any friends from his class attend but in truth, I do kind of wish I left that last “go %^&k yourself” part off.

But my friends at work and a few other parents tell me someone needed to take her down a peg since she was getting too big for her britches and deserved a lesson about overstepping. So am I a Jerk in this situation ? Did I Overreact ?

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