Father Overheard Her Daughter Talking On Phone Instantly Cancels Her Birthday Party.

Parenting isn’t an easy journey. It’s beautiful at the same time tough. Each parent knows what’s best for their child. Disciplining and making them understand their mistakes is important. But at times as parents we too make mistakes. Read this story to know what happened between the mother and her child and how things went after that.

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Here is the situation. My daughter Abby just turned 11 and was supposed to have a birthday party last month with the girls in her class. She is autistic and has ADHD that we haven’t found the right treatment for, so she struggles to make friends and this would have been the first non-family party she has had.

In the last few months, Abby went to 2 other birthday parties where the whole class was invited which is why she asked to have a larger friend party this year in our backyard. Unfortunately because of the timing, Taylor (her best friend) wouldn’t be able to make it because her family was out of town.

The day before the party, I was letting Abby use my phone to give her classmates the time and location information and I overheard this exchange:

Other girl: Is Taylor going to be there?

Abby: No, she’s lame and can’t come.

I sternly told Abby to hang up and explain herself. She tried to tell me that she wasn’t serious, but I thought it was incredibly mean to call her only friend ‘lame’ and felt like she was behaving horribly. She insisted that it was just a joke and wouldn’t agree when I told her that Taylor would be heartbroken if she heard Abby call her lame.

I felt that she didn’t deserve to have a party if she couldn’t cherish her friend, and decided to teach her a lesson. I made her call all 12 girls that were invited (including the ones she had already called to tell the information) and explain to them that there wasn’t going to be a party after all, because she was being punished for saying something rude about Taylor. She was appropriately embarrassed and cried a lot, and I think definitely learned her lesson.

So I felt like this was done and dusted, but Taylor came over last weekend for a sleepover and I talked to her mom for a bit at drop off. She told me she heard about what happened because the other parents had been discussing my punishment and thought it was too harsh, and insinuated I should go easier on Abby because she was ‘a sweet and sensitive kid’. I wasn’t expecting this so I brushed it off until she left, but got annoyed that other parents are judging me for my actions when my kid did something that was NOT sweet or sensitive.

When Taylor’s mother returned to pick her daughter up, she again laid it on thick how much Taylor liked Abby and how she was glad they were friends, and I said “Yep, and now Abby knows to treat her friends well and not to take them for granted.” It got awkward when Taylor’s mom kept gushing about Abby and low-key implying that she didn’t deserve to be punished and I snapped back “Well, I guess you and everyone else knows how to parent better than I do.”

I am still seething over this and want to know if my actions with Abby and with Taylor’s mom were warranted, because I feel like everyone else is taking crazy pills.

What are your opinions? Did I over react? Please don’t be afraid to criticize. Thank you for your time in advance.

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  1. June 22, 2022