Every relationship experiences ups and downs. There are disagreements between parents and children, or with lovers or friends. Read the tale to find out why this father and daughter argued and what you believe they should do?
I’m 54M father and my daughter is 28. She is home on break from grad school getting her phd. She’s only home for two weeks because she says she doesn’t have any more time even though she has a month break. That’s been a big thing with her lately, she is constantly too busy to do things with us or help us out even though she does have the time.
I got my younger daughter a sweater and it turns out she already has it. I called my older daughter from work on Friday and told her she needed to run and exchange it for a different one. She said ok, she’d do it the next day. I said it needed to be done that day to get the best options and she said she was grading so she can’t. I told her that it’s not like she can’t pause her grading, run out, and exchange it. She said she wasn’t going to slow down her work and just said that I should do it when I got back from work that day. I said I was busy too and didn’t feel like running out after a long day of work and she said neither did she. But she doesn’t have a “long day of work,” she’s sitting on her a** on her computer all day and doesn’t even have scheduled hours to work, she can do it whenever she wants.
Today things really kicked off because I needed her to pick up an online order for a gift for my mom, her grandma. She again used the excuse of grading (she hadn’t even started working yet, it was in the morning and she was drinking coffee and having breakfast.) She said that she needs to have her grades done by today but I looked it up on the website and she has until Monday evening so I called her on her BS, and she said she had “other work” due on Monday so she needed to get the grading done today (but wouldn’t enlighten me on what this mysterious “other work” is). I said well tough, this needs to be picked up today so I can wrap it and I was going into the office so I couldn’t do it.
She said that if I don’t want to do it myself, then it will be done on her own time. I told her with that attitude she can stay somewhere else and she said “happily” and packed her things claiming she didn’t want to stay here anyway but was only doing so because I insisted. She left her gifts and said to not expect her for the holidays and she’ll go to her girlfriend’s family instead. I think it’s ridiculous that she is throwing a fit just because she can’t constantly live like she’s the only person on the planet but my wife and other daughter are now furious with me. So I figured I’d ask here because my younger daughter is always reading the stories with me. Am I correct that my daughter is self centered and childish?
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