My mom has a tradition for every christmas and that is to get custom stockings of her grandchildren’s names (Cody, Mia, Sammy, Alaina…etc…) and hang those stockings near the fireplace.
My wife and I have been together for 3 years. She has a son (my stepkid) from her former marriage. When she found out about the tradition mom has, she said she expects my stepson to get his own custom stocking and be hanged along with the other kids’ stockings. I asked my mom and she said that she loves her step grandchild but does not feel comfortable yet to have a stocking of his name and gang it in her home.
Apparently, my wife refused to drop it and chose it as a hill to die on and even told me she would not be attending a christmas party if mom doesn’t do it. We started arguing about it for days. I finally blew up and told her it was not reasonable for me or her to dictate how my mom decorates her home and what stockings she hangs. She started crying and called me ‘blind’ for not seeing how my family is treating my stepson. I said they love him and some stocking isn’t going to prove anything. She said she wouldn’t go then and I called her ridiculous for deciding not to go over something so trivial.
We have been in conflict about it since then and she’s refusing to even speak to me.
Am I Wrong for saying that it was ridiculous for her to decide not to go over some stockings?
My stepson’s age is 9.
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