Father’s Views When His Daughter Who Disowned Her Son For Being Gay.
You know it can’t be easy to come out of the closet to tell your family and friends that you’re lesbian, you’re gay, you’re bisexual or you’re a transgender. Those reactions can cause a lot of worry. But here are 10 stories where the reactions are quite a surprise.
1. Chad’s mom could not accept the recently revealed fact that he was gay. It was against nature, she told him, and demanded he move out of her house. Chad then turned to his grandfather for help. His grandfather quickly wrote a letter to his daughter, Christine.
It read: You are correct that we have a shame in the family, but you’re mistaken about what it is. Kicking Chad out of your home simply because he told you he was gay is the real ‘abomination’ here. A parent disowning her child is what goes ‘against nature’.”
The letter goes on: “You however have made a choice of being hurtful, narrow-minded, and backward. So, while we are in the business of disowning our children, I think I’ll take this moment to say goodbye to you. I now have a fabulous (as the gay put it) grandson to raise, and I don’t have time for heartless B-word of a daughter.
If you find your heart, give us a call. Dad.”
2. An ultra-conservative father discovered on Snapchat that his son, Brett, was gay. The father texted to his son that he found something very disturbing on the site. He asked if it was true that he was gay, and the son texted back, “Yes.”
The next day, Brett’s 20th birthday, the young man was very nervous about the bottom falling out with the news he shared to his father. Then he received a text from him, which read: Happy Birthday son. ‘I love you more than you will ever know and I am so proud of you. I am lucky to have a son like you. Brett, I love you more today than yesterday, we will talk soon.’
The disturbing thing the father found on the site had nothing to do with Brett’s gay lifestyle. Brett shared his father’s message to him in the hopes that it would inspire others to come out.
3. Ellen DeGeneres told her mother she was a lesbian many years ago. There was only one thought that came to mom Betty’s mind. She said, “I thought, ‘Oh darn, her engagement picture won’t be in the New Orleans paper so all my friends can see it.’
Then she gave Ellen a big hug and has supported her famous daughter ever since.
4. A 72-year-old grandmother was so bothered by the thoughts of her niece’s planned same-sex marriage that she wrote and performed a song about it. Now..she was not bothered by her own thoughts of the marriage, but the narrow-minded thoughts of others.
Says Sherri Gray of Nashville, “I’m not an activist, but I get goddamn mad by narrow-mindedness and prejudice and crazy stuff. We [religious people] are not all crazy, we’re not all nutjobs, and we don’t hate all LGBT people.“
5. And speaking of religion, Father Martin made the following controversial post the day after the U.S. Supreme Court legalized marriage equality nationwide.
It read: No issue brings out so much hatred from so many Catholics as homosexuality. Even after over 25 years as a Jesuit, the level of hatred around homosexuality is nearly unbelievable to me, especially when I think of all of the wonderful LGBT friends I have.
The Catholic church must do a much better job of teaching what the Catechism says: that we should treat our LGBT brothers and sisters with “respect, sensitivity and compassion.”
But God wants more. God wants us to love. And not a twisted, crabbed, narrow tolerance, which often comes in the guise of condemnations, instructions and admonitions that try to masquerade as love, but actual love.
Love means: getting to know LGBT men and women, spending time with them, listening to them, being challenged by them, hoping the best for them, and wanting them to be a part of your lives, every bit as much as straight friends are part of your lives.
Love first. Everything else later. In fact, everything else is meaningless without love.
6. During a Friday night homecoming game at Marina High School in Huntington Beach, California, Cassidy Lynn Campbell was crowned homecoming queen. Now that may not sound all that special to you. But Cassidy is not your typical student. 16-year-old Cassidy is a transgender.
She was shocked when blue and gold balloons revealed she had won the crown. She just dropped to the ground and started crying. With many classmates supporting her, she was the first transgender student nominated to the court.
A very tearful and emotional Cassidy said after the event, “I wasn’t doing this for me. I was doing this for so many others around the nation.”
Cassidy, formerly known as Lance, wants to become an LGBT activist and has this message for other transgender teens: ‘Just to be true to themselves and to let people know around them and to not keep it bottled up inside.’
7. The Indian society is a very conservative one and very disturbed when there is even a mention of LGBT rights. To them, homosexuality is seen as taboo, a curse and even a disease. So you can imagine the extreme anguish inside a very nervous Rishi when he chose to reveal to his parents that he was gay.
At first, their reaction was shock, and then they discussed it. Rishi then asked them if he should move out of their home. His father said sternly, “Absolutely not. You are still our son and we love you…”
Soon, Rishi married his partner, Daniel, and their families threw them what they called, “A big fat gay wedding.”
8. Nate, a Michigan high school student, was extremely concerned about revealing his gay sexuality to his parents. Turns out, he didn’t have to.
He received this text from his father one day: ‘I overheard your phone conversation with Mike last night about your plans to come out to me. The only thing I need you to plan is to bring home orange juice and bread after class. We are out, like you now. I’ve known you were gay since you were 6, I’ve loved you since you were born.’
The note was signed ‘Dad,’ who added at the end: ‘Your mom and I think you and Mike make a cute couple.’
9. After returning from a weekend away, Maria found a note from her son telling her that he was gay and that he was heading back to his army base. Maria was shocked. She got angry. It was completely against her religion. Then she thought. And she thought some more. And she finally realized that she was angry at only herself, failing her son as a parent.…but not because her perceived parental failure resulted in her son being gay.
She failed him as a parent, she thought, because she wasn’t there for him in dealing with all those hard questions he had to deal with; that she let him down because he had to keep it all to himself for the past 25 years. And now?
Well, Maria couldn’t be prouder of her son, who became a Metropolitan Police officer, happy in a relationship with another man. “They’re an amazing couple,” she said. “And now I’ve got two sons.”
10. Chris Godfrey was in his second year at university studies when he came out to his parents. It was probably just a little more nerve-wracking to him than many other who come out to their parents, because Chris’ dad…was an Anglican vicar, a priest.
He first told his mom over the phone, and she gave her unconditional support to him. But he was worried about telling the others in his family so he asked his mom if she could do it for him. His father called him the next day and praised his courage for revealing this to the family.
When Chris took his boyfriend to meet his family, his father welcomed him into the home with all the warmth he would give any parishioner. Though tremendously scared at first, Chris could not believe how perfect things had turned out.
If you’re one of the many people out there who has trouble accepting lesbians, gays, bisexuals or transgenders, let me ask: How would you feel if others didn’t accept you for the way you were? If, at every turn, you experienced hatred…. No one deserves that.