I spent last night with my boyfriend’s family, we’d gone out to dinner and his dad was gonna drive.
So my boyfriend, me, his parents, and his brother all squeezed into his dad’s car and we went to the restaurant. I had a few drinks and his dad had two, since he was gonna drive.
But on the way back his dad started asking me “you work on self driving cars, yeah?” (I do, I’m a systems engineer and have job hopped between a handful of autonomy companies.)
He started asking me how I liked his Tesla and I joked “just fine as long as you’re the one driving it!” And he asked me what I thought about FSD(Full-Self Driving) which he’d just bought. He asked if he should turn it on. I said “not with me in the car” and he then laughed and asked how I was still so scared when I work with this stuff everyday.
I was like “Uhh it’s because I…” But stopped when he pulled over and literally started turning it on. I was like “I’m not kidding, let me out of the car if you’re gonna do this” and my boyfriend’s dad and brother started laughing at me, and my boyfriend still wasn’t saying anything.
His dad was like “It’ll be fine” and I reached over my boyfriend’s little brother and tried the door handle which was locked. I was getting mad, and probably moreso because I was tipsy, and I yelled at him “Let me the f**k out”
My boyfriend started trying to tell me to calm down because I was drunk and I told him that it didn’t f**king matter, I’d be outta here sober or drunk. He told me to stop cussing in front of his little brother, and I told him to tell his dad to cut his sh*t out and I wouldn’t have anything to cuss over.
His dad was like “fine, I didn’t realize it’d be suuuch a big deal” and drove home normally, but things have been tense as hell.
We got back to his house and he was mad at me for “overreacting” the first time I met his family all together. I got angry and was like “I’m not the one who decided to do the ONE THING that I said I’m not comfortable with in the car, just after I asked him not to, to laugh at me”
He said that his dad used the car a lot, and it was fine, and I asked him (since we’re both rock climbers) would he ever get on a route with his carbainer that doesn’t lock? What if someone says they do it all the time and it’s fine? He was like “absolutely not, but that’s different” and I was like “it’s literally not, just like we don’t know any climbers who’d do that sh*t, nobody in my field that I know would stay in that car.
He got mad and told me to go to sleep, I was drunk. But honestly today I woke up sober and I stand by what I did, like I wasn’t comfortable with what was happening and my boyfriend’s family all laughed and started trying to do the one f**king thing I said no to? Like whatever that thing is, it’s f**ked up.
Am I A Jerk for yelling at my boyfriend’s dad to let me out of the car?
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