Moving in with the person you love is exciting and also at times stressful since before moving in there are alot of things to discuss. Here in this story, a boyfriend demands a half mortgage to be paid by his girlfriend for the house he owns and she denies. Read the story and let us know what she should do?
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My boyfriend (29M) and I (22F) recently decided to move in together. We’ve been together for 1.5 years. I am currently renting an apartment and he has a house that he bought just before we started dating.
Before moving in together, we thought it’d be best to discuss finances. He’s a doctor and I’m a social media manager. He told me how much he makes and it was more or less what I expected. When I told him how much I make, he kind of laughed and said I’m supposed to tell him how much I make per month, not per year.
I told him no, that’s how much I make per month. His shock was understandable to me- I make 150% of his salary. I told him that it’s just because I work for a client in a country where the currency is nearly 20x stronger. If I had this same job in our country, I would only make a quarter of what he does.
I don’t live an extravagant lifestyle so you wouldn’t be able to tell that I make as much money as I do by just looking at me. I still live in a small apartment that I got when I was making less than 20% of what I make now, and I never learned how to drive (I know, I know) so I don’t have a car and get around exclusively by e-hailing services.
Once the initial shock wore off, he said that’s great, because now I can pay half of his mortgage. I was a little taken aback by that. I mean, it’s not like I wasn’t going to contribute to the household at all. I would’ve been happy to buy groceries, pay utilities and cook and clean because my workload is MUCH lighter than his. I told him this and that I wouldn’t pay half his mortgage.
He retorted that since I make so much more than him that the least I could do is pay just half the mortgage and that we could go half on groceries and utilities. I told him that that’s a little unfair because if we break up, he gets a house and I’m left with nothing, and that if that’s going to be the case I would rather stay in my apartment.
I offered up a compromise. His house is sparsely decorated to say the least. He has 2x 1 seat couches, a table that’s too big and a tv that’s too small. Oh, and a bed. He’s never really there, so I get it. I told him that I would furnish the entire house and get the groceries, cook and clean, and we’d go half on utilities. But he still insisted that I pay half of the mortgage.
He said that I still need a place to live, and that if I was going to be paying rent anyway, paying his mortgage would be the same thing. My boyfriend is a smart man so I don’t know if he doesn’t see the logic (or lack thereof in my opinion) of what he’s saying or if I’m being dumb and it’s not a big deal.
What is your opinion about boyfriend logic?
