Guy Is Shocked At How Much His Girlfriend Earns, Wants Her To Pay Half Of His Mortgage After Moving In.
Moving in with the person you love is exciting and also at times stressful since before moving in there are alot of things to discuss. Here in this story, a boyfriend demands a half mortgage to be paid by his girlfriend for the house he owns and she denies. Read the story and let us know what she should do?
My boyfriend (29M) and I (22F) recently decided to move in together. We’ve been together for 1.5 years. I am currently renting an apartment and he has a house that he bought just before we started dating.
Before moving in together, we thought it’d be best to discuss finances. He’s a doctor and I’m a social media manager. He told me how much he makes and it was more or less what I expected. When I told him how much I make, he kind of laughed and said I’m supposed to tell him how much I make per month, not per year.
I told him no, that’s how much I make per month. His shock was understandable to me- I make 150% of his salary. I told him that it’s just because I work for a client in a country where the currency is nearly 20x stronger. If I had this same job in our country, I would only make a quarter of what he does.
I don’t live an extravagant lifestyle so you wouldn’t be able to tell that I make as much money as I do by just looking at me. I still live in a small apartment that I got when I was making less than 20% of what I make now, and I never learned how to drive (I know, I know) so I don’t have a car and get around exclusively by e-hailing services.
Once the initial shock wore off, he said that’s great, because now I can pay half of his mortgage. I was a little taken aback by that. I mean, it’s not like I wasn’t going to contribute to the household at all. I would’ve been happy to buy groceries, pay utilities and cook and clean because my workload is MUCH lighter than his. I told him this and that I wouldn’t pay half his mortgage.
He retorted that since I make so much more than him that the least I could do is pay just half the mortgage and that we could go half on groceries and utilities. I told him that that’s a little unfair because if we break up, he gets a house and I’m left with nothing, and that if that’s going to be the case I would rather stay in my apartment.
I offered up a compromise. His house is sparsely decorated to say the least. He has 2x 1 seat couches, a table that’s too big and a tv that’s too small. Oh, and a bed. He’s never really there, so I get it. I told him that I would furnish the entire house and get the groceries, cook and clean, and we’d go half on utilities. But he still insisted that I pay half of the mortgage.
He said that I still need a place to live, and that if I was going to be paying rent anyway, paying his mortgage would be the same thing. My boyfriend is a smart man so I don’t know if he doesn’t see the logic (or lack thereof in my opinion) of what he’s saying or if I’m being dumb and it’s not a big deal.
What is your opinion about boyfriend logic?