Guy Furious When Wife Tells His Grieving Teen Sister ‘You Are Not The Only One Who Lost Your Mother.’

There is no one way to grieve perfectly. Pain is typically a never-ending process. We miss our loved ones, and how we deal with it is a highly personal matter. So thinking about how one is doing things isn’t always the greatest approach. 

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My 28 M[ale] mom passed away 10 months ago. My sister 15 F[emale] has been severely impacted by this. She was very close to my mother. She became somewhat depressed. She does not talk a lot. She has these screaming episodes where she starts lashing out on everyone. My father and I are doing everything to help her. We are talking her to therapy and grief counseling. She is showing some signs of improvement but it is still a long way to go.

Last week she was eating dinner at my house. She was clearly not in the mood. She was barely engaging in any conversation me or my wife [28 F] tries to initiate. I went to the bathroom and when I returned, she had tears in her eyes and asked me to take her home. She refused to elaborate anymore. After pressuring my wife she admitted that she told her this… ‘I know you feel sad and pain, but you are not the only one who lost your mother.’ ‘Your brother (me) and your father are also suffering.’ ‘You need to grow up, because if you continue acting like this you will only become a burden to them.’ ‘Do you also want to lose your brother and dad?’

I was furious and told her ‘WTF did you tell her?’ ‘Who f told you to say anything?’ She said that our ways are clearly not helping her and we needed to lay the harsh truth. I was like ‘who appointed you a therapist, do you have a secret degree?’ Nothing what you said is truthful. I will never consider my sister a burden. Yes we are also in pain but guess what I am almost 30 my dad is 50. We are the adults, she is the teenager, she takes the priority.

She said that she was only trying to help. I told her ‘You did not do this to help me, you only did for yourself.’ ‘You want us to resolve my sister situation as fast as possible, so we can go back to our normal life. So selfish.’ She started crying and we have not spoken since then. What are your opinions? Did I over react? Please don’t be afraid to criticize. Thank you for your time in advance. Here are a few comments on the story where it was originally posted: 

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