Every relationship has ups and downs. In a blended family, developing a great relationship requires twice as much effort. Blending families may be difficult, especially when a parent is attempting to manage their relationship with a stepson or stepsdaughter. It may be challenging, whether you’re becoming a stepparent or adopting your partner’s children. Read the tale to find out what happened in this household and whether or not you agree with the wife’s decision.
My husband and I have been together for 3 years. He has 3 kids from his previous relationship and I have one. She’s the oldest (17). He’s a dedicated man, puts God first and loves everyone.
My husband always complains that my daughter doesn’t spend time with her step siblings or him but she has reasons for that and that is school, health issues and work. She does her best to spend as much time with them as she can. but she on the other hand complains that her stepdad tells her to basically take on the role of a babysitter whenever she’s with her step siblings. My husband denied that and said that my daughter was making up excuses to not have to spend time with his kids.
For this issue, I figured that a family trip is what the family need to get together and spend more time around each others. My husband liked the idea but said that his kids are now “uncomfortable” around my daughter because of her “attitude” and suggested we let her stay home and have the house all to herself since that’s “what she always wanted”. I told him it’s best that we all go. he kept complaining til I snapped and told him to stop
I booked (paid) for the whole family. However, my daughter told me she couldn’t find her passport. We turned the house upside down looking for it but couldn’t find it. My husband said maybe it was a sign from God that we should let her stay home so the trip wouldn’t turn into a disaster. I ignored his comment but later while I was cleaning his office I found the passport, tucked away in the 3rd drawer under a ton of papers. I was floored by this, I confronted him with it and he swore he had no idea why or how the passport got there. I checked the upstairs camera and saw him enter my daughter’s room. That was it for me, I screamed my head off at him then cancelled the whole trip completely. He started arguing saying I overreacted and that he didn’t want his kids to be “miserable” on the trip and that willing to apologise to my daughter if and when I reconsider my decision regarding the cancellation of the trip, because my step kids will be devastated but I said it was final and that it was done.
He became cold and distant and said that he wants to take some time to do some fasting and get guidance from God about how he should deal with the disrespect and control I had displayed lately. Am I A Jerk for cancelling it altogether? What should I do?
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