I’ve been married to my husband for 9 years and we have a son together.
Last week he confessed to me that he thinks he has started an emotional affair with a coworker of his. He said that this has been going on for a few months and he didn’t felt guilty. He said that he never touched her romantically, but he had feelings for both of us. He said he of course would choose me over any woman but still I’ve been hurting since I found this it and I don’t know what to do.
The girl is in her mid 20s, she hasn’t had any kids, she’s so pretty and she has a piece of his heart. I don’t know what I’ve been doing wrong for him to catch feelings for another woman. This is devastating to me. Honestly I’d rather be ok if he had just slept with her and had no feelings for her whatsoever. That would be easier.
I don’t know how I can get past this. We have a family that I don’t want to break up and I still love him, and he’s ending everything with her, but now I feel broken. I don’t even know if I can trust him again.
He said he did not feel guilty because it was an accident and he didn’t intend for anything to go as far as it did. There were a lot of messages exchanged between them and he said they went on 2 “dates” but there was nothing physical.
He said he’d end the affair but right now we can’t afford for him to quit the job. He said that he was going to stop seeing her outside of work and said he has already blocked her on everything.
I don’t know what to do.