Husband Wonders If He Is Wrong For Siding With Their Foster Girl Rather Than His Wife.
Respecting one’s choice and beliefs is important to have a smooth and peaceful relationship. Read this story of a mom forcing her beliefs on her foster child and was stunned by her husband’s reaction. Let us know what you think of this situation. Whom do you support?
My wife (35F) and I (34M) have decided to be foster parents after not being able to have children. Our current foster child, Hope, is 15 and Jewish. We’re Christian. My wife is really committed to her faith and won’t hesitate to push it onto others.
The past week, my wife would put crosses up in her room when Hope is elsewhere, and Hope would take them down (after I apologize for her behavior). Hope hates confrontation, and is a generally quiet girl. I have spoken to my wife privately, and she believes she is “getting rid of the ‘Jewish-ness’.” I don’t like it and I don’t think it’s right that she does this.
When Sunday came (First Sunday that we’ve had her) my wife woke her up and demanded that she come to Church with us. I heard this outside Hope’s room, as our walls are not necessarily soundproof. Hope kept stammering, and I felt my wife was exploiting that. I stormed in and told my wife that she needs to respect Hope’s religion, and let it be.
She looked shocked, as if she expected me to take her side. She stormed out of Hope’s room, grabbed clothes, took one of our cars, and is currently staying at my MIL’s house. I told Hope she doesn’t need to, and I would skip for that day to be with her.
My wife is furious at me, and my in-laws think I’m in the wrong. (My parents died in a house fire ten years ago.) I’m not sure about it. I need some advice on if I’m wrong?
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