There are some things that should never be laughed at. It’s advisable to avoid certain topics in your humor, whether they’re disrespectful to specific groups of individuals or simply too delicate a subject to ever be amusing. Why resort to a punchline that will feel like a kick in the belly when there are a million jokes and pranks that can be done without hurting anyone’s feelings? Read this story of a couple and the prank that took place and let us know how you would deal with such a situation.
If you think we’re young then think again. I’m f35 and he’s m33 and I can’t believe this is really happening. I begged him to go to therapy with me but he’s refusing any type of conversation.
About a month ago while having Sunday breakfast. My husband left his iPad on the counter when I was doing the dishes and went to the gym (now I think about it he went out of his way to draw my attention to the iPad the whole morning placing it on display and leaving it wherever I was; now I know why). While I was loading the dishwasher he got a text and a picture of naked female torso and “you miss this?”. The number belonged to “Eve”. I froze in my tracks. We’ve been married for 2 years and we have two children together m5 and f3. Against my better judgment I started looking and there was this full conversation for over a week. He was cheating on me with this Eve.
I can’t describe the amount of pain I felt and I ran to the bathroom vomiting and crying, anyway when he got back from the gym and asked me what’s wrong I just handed him the iPad and told him that he has gotten a text from Eve and that I needed to go out for a walk if he could stay with the children. He said okay. I went for a 3h walk. He texted me multiple times if I was okay and I said that I was fine, just needed the walk. I don’t remember crying this much my entire life. When I got home I told him that I knew about his affair and asked him how we’re going to do this. “do what?”. I told him that we obviously can’t stay married but that I needed to know how we’re going to do this with the least damage possible to the children. I told him that since he has his parents living near he could move out and let me stay with the children for now until we separated.
“Is that really all your reaction? Are you f***ing serious right now??”
I just looked at him all puzzled. What did he mean by this?. I told him that I couldn’t discuss this now because I was exhausted. He started yelling that I was so careless and cold. My reaction to his infidelity wasn’t the proper reaction or at least not the one he expected. He then shoved the IPad in my hands and asked me to call “eve”. I refused and ran to our room because I couldn’t believe how cruel he was for wanting me to call his mistress. “F***ing call the number!!!!!”. I did. The number belonged to his friend and he was laughing on the other line saying it was all a prank.
It took me a few moments to get it but then I started crying. My husband was livid at the way I handled the prank. He was disappointed that I didn’t care enough. I don’t know what he wanted me to do. He couldn’t explain what he expected me to act. He just yelled that he didn’t expect this.
Now a month later he’s still so cold and distant with me. I tried to apologize and explain that I was hurt but shocked because that wasn’t him. I tried to explain that I just didn’t want to hurt our children. I told him that I loved him so much and that if that was something true it would have broken me. For a few hours I believed the prank. He thinks I’m too cold and apathetic and my reaction was abnormal so now he’s cold and apathetic towards me. And I think this whole situation is abnormal. Did I go too far here? What should I do?
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