Everyone should be able to select what they believe in and what type of faith they follow. This is what happened to a 24-year-old woman who decided to share her story in the hopes of finding out if she was correct to restrict her mother from visiting her house after she messed up her kitchen, knowing that her daughter is Jewish and regards food preparation as a serious matter. Read the story and let us know how you would deal with such a situation.
I (24F) have banned my mother from my house and taken her emergency key. I did this after I found out from one of her friends who was disgusted, that she was sneaking into my house and using as many plates, pans, silverware and the like in secret, cleaning them and then putting them back, with the express purpose of breaking my kosher status of the kitchen.
I confronted her, she admitted, it, saying that my becoming Jewish and going kosher was “an insult” and she had supported me through my conversion because she thought I’d realize how stupid it was, and when I didn’t she felt stuck. So, she had been secretly sabotaging my kosher kitchen to show that “there was nothing different after she cleaned.”
I took her key and banned her from my house because she broke my trust. She and my dad have been blowing up my phone as I’ve been rekashering everything. Everyone in my family is calling and leaving messages, calling me the a**h**e, and my aunt (mom’s sister) is saying I’m being ridiculous and said “honoring your mother and father is more important than keeping kosher.” That made me start questioning my decision and after a sleepless night, I needed outside perspectives.
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