A wedding is a rite that marks the beginning of a new family, and while the bride and groom are the major ones uniting their lives together, both of their families are also involved. It is very uncommon for the bride and groom to like one another’s company yet despise a certain family member or get into a quarrel every time they begin to speak. Read the story to know who the unwanted person was in the story and what do you think the bride should do?
My fiance (26m) & I (23f) have been together for over 2 years. I don’t have a big family, just my dad and my older sister. My dad has always been a single parent devoting his life for me and my sister and working over 14+ jobs in the past 6 years to provide for us. I love my dad and we have the best relationship anyone could hope for.
However, my fiance does not get along with him. They have different opinions on so many things. For example, my fiance one time suggested to my dad to sell the truck he has because it’s been sitting there for years. My dad got offended because this is my grandfather’s truck and he has no money to get it fixed. Another example, my fiance got mad at my dad at a party for talking about his struggle after my mom’s death and accused him of collecting sympathy points but dad said that he always talks about it casually.
Their recent disagreement was when my dad refused to give my fiance money to contribute to the wedding. My fiance complained but I said that my dad isn’t obligated to pay for the wedding.
Yesterday. my fiance told me to look for “someone else” to walk me down the aisle and asked why. He said that my dad refused to help with the wedding and he should be grateful he’s still invited. I got upset and argued that for one, my dad refused to contribute because he has no money, he can not afford to pay. And two, just like any bride I want my dad to walk me down the aisle on my wedding day. He threw a fit saying that I was trying to ruin his mood and get him upset on our wedding day but I called him selfish for wanting to take away the moment I always dreamed of (sounds cliché but I’m like that) over his disagreements with dad. He yelled at me for calling him selfish although it’s our wedding not just mine and said that I clearly don’t give a hoot if he’s uncomfortable then walked out.
He’s fuming and is insisting I’m being inconsiderate and projecting on him when I called him selfish. What should I do?
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