Man Tells Pregnant Woman The Bus Seat Is “Taken” By His Hand, So She Just Sits On It, Drama Ensues.
So, I, f30, and am 8 months pregnant. I take public transport to work daily. I’m always exhausted because I have to work extra time to be able to afford basic necessities. I take the bus to work everyday and oftentimes it’s packed, but I get lucky enough when decent folks volunteer their seats for me. Now I should mention that I Don’t use my pregnancy as an excuse to get what I want but people just offer me their places by themselves which is kind and sweet.
Wednesday, I get on the bus like usual but this time there’s one empty seat, I go to sit but I find a guy in his business attire sitting there with his hand on the empty seat (sort of like resting it?) I say excuse me and ask him to remove his hand so I could sit, but he tells me the seat was “taken”. I ask by who and he says his hand.
Not gonna lie….I laughed a little but wasn’t feeling well so I asked him to remove it so I could sit but he refused again, folks started staring. I tell him I’m tired and need to sit and he replies saying my pregnancy isn’t his problem.
I had enough at this point, my legs were burning and my back was hurting, so I went ahead and sat on his hand. He freaks out and tries to remove it quickly while shouting at me. He then starts arguing about how disrespectful I was to do this inappropriate thing and in public no less, I argue back but then he gets off after saying I was being inappropriate and disrespectful. Everyone stares at me and I just sit there feeling a bit of shame about what happened.
I tell my husband about this incident, then he says that I did indeed act inappropriately and shouldn’t have made this guy uncomfortable by sitting on his hand like that. He tells me I f#$%^d up and this was totally inappropriate despite me saying I was so tired of standing and was in desperate need to sit down. Did I go too far here? Does he have a valid point or not?
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