Man Wonders If It’s Truly ‘Selfish’ And ‘Heartless’ To Ask His Wife To Cancel Her Terminally Ill Father’s Trip To Disney With Their Daughters.

We only understand how little time we spent with the people we cared about when they are no longer with us. Or when we learn that the individual does not have much longer to live. But, at the very least, we can spend the remaining time carefully and make some pleasant memories with them. This is what the daughter of a terminally ill man thought of doing when she wanted her children to enjoy a trip to Disneyland with their grandfather. But the husband was not keen on this. Read the story and what would you do in this situation?

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My (M28) wife (F28) and I have two daughters, 6 & 5 years old, which is prime Disney age. They’re both super into princesses and all that. We’ve talked about taking them to Disney over the next few years as we know they’d love it. My wife has never been before, and I’ve only been once- when I was 10 years old. It was definitely a memorable trip for me as my family had to save up a while for it. We’ve always known that Disney would be our big trip with our girls.

In July, my FIL got diagnosed with prostate cancer. After a few rounds of chemo and some rather intense stays at the hospital, it’s only gotten worse. It’s spread across to other organs in his body, and rather than trying to suffer to fight it, he’s opted to just not do chemo and try to live with what time he has left. As a result, he and my MIL have decided to make more memories with family. One of these memories is of taking our daughters to Disney & surprised them with the trip yesterday during Christmas.

At first, I thought my wife would be against it as well- we’ve always said we’ve wanted to get to experience taking them and seeing their faces. However, I found out that my MIL cleared it with my wife last month. My wife didn’t tell me because she thought I would be surprised and excited for our daughters. I sat through all of the rest of the night, but when we got home we had a serious discussion about it.

I told my wife that I didn’t want our daughter’s first trip to Disney to be without us. She suggested we go along, but the trip is in February, and booking flights+hotel+tickets for just my wife and I for the time they’re all going is still going to be almost $5000. I told my wife that we have to talk to her parents & decline the trip, but my wife is saying that I’m being selfish and heartless by robbing our daughters of this experience & robbing them of a core memory with my FIL before he passes. Am I being out of line here?

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