Not to toot my own horn but I’d say that I’m a pretty good cook. It’s something I enjoy doing in my free time and makes me feel good to make the people I love a meal to enjoy. My fiancée and I recently got engaged and just had our engagement party last weekend that consisted of about just under 30 people. We hosted it at our house.
I knew right away that I wanted to cater my engagement party and make the food for my guests myself.
My MIL and I have an ok relationship, but she’s one of those women who thinks that everything she makes is the absolute best and anyone else’s efforts are sh*t. Her food is pretty good, but it’s nothing compared to my mom or my grandma’s cooking when I had growing up, but obviously I keep my mouth shut about that. Every time we’ve had a family dinner at her house and I offer to bring something or even help her out in the kitchen she refuses and makes up excuses like “it won’t be done properly” or “it won’t be as good as mine”.
So when she found out about my engagement party she asked if she could bring some dishes. I politely declined and said that I will be catering the food myself. She got offended that I declined and started saying how she should make the food because my husband’s side of the family LOVES her food and nothing will compare to hers.
My husband told her to let it go, that it was our engagement party and my cooking is amazing so everyone is sure to love it.
Night of the engagement party rolled around and I had spent hours in the kitchen making a bunch of dishes that I made sure were perfect. My family and friends LOVED the food and could not stop complimenting me on it. My fiancée’s side of the family were impressed too but my MIL and SIL weren’t having it. Every dish my MIL tried she had something negative to say, “oh my this is too overcooked”, “the sauce doesn’t taste right in this”, “see this is why I should’ve made the food” etc.
My fiancé and I both heard these comments and he pulled her aside to confront her saying if she didn’t like the food that she could leave, tonight is about us not her.
She started going off about how it was so disrespectful of me to decline her offer when she is obviously a better cook and these dishes weren’t made properly and how she feels bad for the guests.
I was just over it at this point and told her to 1) get her head out of her a* and 2) to leave the party because I am not going to be disrespected in my own house.
MIL, FIL and SIL ended up leaving and have been messaging my fiancée non stop about how I was so disrespectful and need to apologize for taking it too far and insulting her. They even suggested he rethink his decision to marry me?! Fiancée told them that she needs to apologize to me first.
Both my mom and grandma think that it wouldn’t have been the end of the world if I let her bring a dish or two.
Am I A Jerk ?
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