Source: Reddit
My son Adam’s (24) best friend Carlos (25) passed away over 2 years ago in a car accident, this loss completely devastated Adam to the point where he lost his job, they were like brothers and our family have known his family for years. So we’re also very devastated over this loss.
Carlos left behind his girlfriend and their now 4 yo son, We don’t know his girlfriend too well since he didn’t bring her around much, they were on and off til their son was born. Adam told me he had been seeing and taking care of Carlos’s family’s needs which’s great, we were glad he was stepping up to make sure that Carlos’s family were getting help. Adam also got a new job and we sort of had limited contact for a few months.
He’s started visiting us lately and looked different in general, he is now more calm and smiles more often and is even open to talk about Carlos without getting too emotional. I was relieved and happy for him but last week, he contacted me and his dad and said he had something to tell us. He visited and brought Carlos’s girlfriend and child with him, we had dinner and then all of a sudden he told us that he and Carlos’s girlfriend have started dating and announced their engagement there.
I was in shock, I didn’t expect this at all. I didn’t know what to say but I felt upset and shocked mostly. Adam noticed my reaction and asked what’s wrong, I told him I never expected him to get with his best friend’s partner, of all people and talked about how bad this would look to Carlos’s family who are close friends to ours.
Carlos’s girlfriend excused herself and her son to the bathroom and Adam and began arguing, he went on about how I upset his fiancee and that I should be supporting him but I said that he should’ve told me, and that he shouldn’t have got together with his best friend’s partner and perhaps use her grief to get her to date him, he acted shocked and called me unbelievable that’s when I asked him to leave my house. He got up and left with them.
My husband said I messed up by making a scene and reacting the way I did. I went upstairs and stayed alone for an hour. It’s been days and Adam hasn’t called and my husband keeps trying to get me to speak to him but I kept saying I needed time. What are your opinions? Did I over react? Please don’t be afraid to criticize. Here are a few comments on the story where it was originally posted:
