A paternity test is both a physical and an emotional evaluation. So when this woman’s partner asked her to do one for their kid, the woman was crushed. Read the whole story and how would you handle the situation?
I’m a new mom to a baby boy who is my pride and joy and though it’s been a rollercoaster adjusting to taking care of a baby, the past few months have been great, tiring but great.
I have a bf of 3 years who is the first person relationship wise I have ever loved and I thought we were doing great as new parents but also as partners.
Friday, he came home and he asked me for a paternity test. Just like that, it was completely out of the blue. I was putting away the dishes and he asked for one, like he was asking what was for dinner. I’m a different race from him but our child, apart from the skin tone, is literally his mirror image from pictures I had seen of him when he was a baby.
I was stunned when he asked and his reasons were that he had to be sure he was the father, he had to have that certainty. All I remember as he was speaking is just immediately feeling pain.
The man I love doesn’t trust me. He would actually believe that I would f**k someone else, cheat on him, and then try to pass off another man’s baby as his. I have never ever given him reason to think I would cheat on him. I have tried to be transparent and communicated and it wasn’t enough.
He told me he would give me time to think about this, that he wouldn’t go behind my back and do this test but for our relationship to move forward, he needs to be 100% sure. He repeated this because he, in his words, “needed me to realize how serious he was”.
After thinking for a couple of days, I’m going to allow him this paternity test because I have nothing to hide. I never cheated and would have never cheated on him. Once it’s proven that he’s the father, I’m ending it, leaving the same day and I am going to try my best to be a cooperative coparent with him.
In the meantime, I’m coming up with my exit plan, a place to live, and a lawyer to work out a custody arrangement and court.
I can’t even tell my family or my friends right now because they would go nuclear and my first priority is our child. I hope the test was worth it to him.
I’m not asking for advice or reassurance or to explain his side. I just, I’m just realizing this part of my life is now over. What a way to start the new year, huh.
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