While having a new baby in the family is a joyful event, it is important to note that the pregnancy was not without cost. Some pregnancies are very difficult. In this story, because of the severity of their wife’s pregnancy, the couple decided to stop having children after their first child together. However, when his mom continued to shame the wife into becoming pregnant again, the son threatened to cut all relations with her. Read the story and let us know how you would handle the situation.
My wife and I have a 10 month old. We aren’t going to have any more children because my wife’s pregnancy was horrendous and both she and our child nearly didn’t make it through the birth. My wife had hyperemesis gravidarum (which is nausea and throwing up that is more severe than regular morning sickness). She was so sick she was losing weight and she was in the percentage of mothers who has it the entire pregnancy instead of just in the beginning. Hers never got any better.
She also had kidney stones during her pregnancy that put her in the A&E. She ended up with preeclampsia and other complications and had to be admitted to the hospital and put on bedrest. She gave birth prematurely and needed an emergency cesarean and hysterectomy.
It hasn’t been a year yet but my mother won’t let up about us having more kids. I have a sibling but they are imprisoned and so I’m her only chance for grandchildren. We haven’t told her about my wife’s hysterectomy. My mother openly compares herself to her sister who has 9 grandchildren and her brother whose 7th was just born.
A week ago I told her to leave because she kept bringing it up during a visit and she outright told my wife the complications were worth the reward of a child and why didn’t my wife think our child was worth it. The questioning was enough. The next day when I calmed down I told her if she ever brings up the subject of more kids or questions my wife’s feelings towards our child I will cut her off from access permanently.
My mother’s husband and even my dad who is divorced from my mother both say I was right to tell her to leave but threatening to cut off her access was a step too far. My mother is also furious at me. I don’t want to cut off her access. It is a last resort but at the time I was angry. Did I go too far here?
What would you do in his situation? Any advice. Here are a few comments on the story where it was originally posted: