One of the most memorable days of your life is your wedding day. It’s not always simple to plan a wedding and make it seem as significant and personal as possible. When musketeers and family members provide their opinions on how the marriage should go, it may add to the stress of preparing a wedding. Indeed, when they aren’t asked for their input. In this story when the daughter’s ideas differed drastically from what her parents had planned her parents were irritated. Read the story and let us know whether the daughter was right in putting forward her ideas for her own wedding.
I (28F) and my fiancé (32M) are planning to get married this July.
We are very relaxed and want a stress free day, so here is what we planned (relevant to the situation): we rented a big house by a lake, we plan on a friend marrying us, casual dress code (my own dress is a beach dress I bought for $40), only invited family we are close with and close friends (less than 50 people total), the food is going to he a cook out style (FIL and BIL will take care of the grilling, a southern restaurant in town is going to provide us with all the sides and some desserts), cupcakes for a cake, streaming serviceband my fiancé’s old band equipment for music and no traditional wedding parties. The only exception is a professional photographer. Also since we bought a fixer upper we asked for Lowe’s gift cards as gifts, no register or anything.
The problem is my parents, they are super into keeping up appearances. They want a church wedding and a country club reception, the big cake, the band, hundreds of people I don’t know as guests and the bajillion bridesmaids and groomsmen. I shut that down hard. I told them that the most I might agree to is a party to celebrate our marriage after the wedding itself.
They threw a tantrum, gave me the silent treatment and now they are threatening me to not attend my wedding.
I am not super close to them so all I said was that I would respect their decision and they shouldn’t force themselves to come, that I will have a fun day even if they don’t attend so they shouldn’t worry about me and do what they feel is right.
Well now all hell broke loose, I have relatives from both sides of the family calling me a Jerk for breaking my parents’ hearts, that I am their only daughter and all they want is to celebrate my day. I blocked every single one of them. But when I went to my parents’ house my mom really seemed heart broken. Did I go too far here? Do they have a valid point? Here are a few comments on the story where it was originally posted: