It’s no surprise that seeing your partner’s family for the first time is a nerve-racking event! Even if you play out various situations in your thoughts several times before walking through their front door, first-impression nerves are going to run up and down your spine. Read this story to know what happened during this Thanksgiving dinner and do you agree with the girlfriend’s reaction?
My bf and I went to see his parents for the first time this weekend. It’s Canadian thanksgiving. We were supposed to stay Sat, Sun and fly back in the afternoon Monday. I’m writing this Sun night already back in my own bed.
My bf’s parents greeted us at the airport and brought us home. They then proceeded to ask me if I had drugs in my bag and I was pretty shocked because who asks that? I said only Tylenol and they nodded and showed us to our rooms which meant I got the guest room and my bf was to sleep in his old room. His parents were serving dinner and during dinner I was asked to pay for my portion of the thanksgiving dinner ($30). I was pretty shocked and angry because who does that? I’ve never been asked to pay for someone’s ingredient fees when a guest at their place.
I didn’t answer and then confronted my bf in his room and asked why I was asked to pay. He just says it’s something they ask their friends as well, when they have a bbq they ask people to pay their portion. Honestly I’m shocked they have friends. I reminded him he has eaten at my parents place dozens of times and was never asked to pay. He claimed if they asked he would have but they never did. Because it’s rude to do that to a guest! But his mom came and got me and escorted me to my room. I was fuming and looking for tickets home and texted my bf to say I was going home tomorrow.
He called me and begged me to stay, saying his family already doesn’t like me for not agreeing to pay for dinner and I’m just making it worse. I ignored him and rebooked an early flight (which was very expensive) and got a cab to the airport in the morning. I told my friends who had confirmed they’ve never been asked to pay for a meal while they were a guest. And if they were struggling, why even invite me over? Is this normal practice? Their house was pretty big. I don’t think it was a money thing for them.
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