“See your dad keeps wetting the bed and throws a tantrum when asked to wear a diaper.”
In every husband wife relationship there are ups and downs. However, there must be understanding, respect and communication between them. In this story however, the wife’s repeated request to her husband went in deaf ears. Read the story to know what happened and let us know what you think about this situation.
My husband was staying at the hospital for some health issues. After he got out he started wetting the bed every few nights, we talked to the doctor about it and they gave us meds but they take time so they suggested that my husband use adult diapers temporarily. He said no, and since he’s too sick to do anything then I’m the one having to clean up every time.
I grew tired of it. He just kept wetting the bed and not even considering diapers at this point. Yesterday morning was my final straw…I saw that he’d wet the bed again and I just kind of went off. I kept talking but it’s like he wasn’t hearing me at all because he just kept staring at the wall.
The kids heard the fuss and came in asking what was going on. I showed them the state the bed and sheets were in and said “see your dad keeps wetting the bed and throws a tantrum when asked to wear a diaper”. They stared and my husband looked shocked. He had them leave the room then said I shouldn’t have done that. In my defense I wanted to defend myself because I thought it was unfair when the kids accused me of yelling at their dad “for no reason”.
He said I humiliated him in front of his kids and made him feel terrible. I told him he can be less embarrassed and feel less terrible when he stops wetting the bed like he was a child. He started crying saying he’s struggling with his health and said that I was being cruel and descendant towards him now, I’m “trying” to turn the kids against him as well as shame him in front of them.
My sister visited and when I vented to her about it she said she understood but I was still in the wrong for getting kids involved. I’m feeling conflicted on whether I did the right thing maybe to get him to understand how this has been affecting me as well. Did I go too far here?
What do you think about this situation? Any advice for the wife… Here are a few comments on the story where it was originally posted: