Childbirth is one of nature’s blessings in life. The child comes as a wonderful experience to the parents, a blessing to the family, especially to the woman who goes through a rollercoaster of emotions during the journey from being pregnant to childbirth. (This story was sent to us by Arthur).
My wife (23) and I (27) are expecting. She’s due this month and things have been a bit intense recently with her being extra hormonal.
We live in a different state than my family. My wife and I couldn’t visit for Christmas. My parents were calling to continue complaining about us not spending Christmas with them and demanded I make it up for them. I said I was open to any suggestions they had and they suggested they come stay with us for a week once the baby is born. That way they could spend time with us and the baby as well.
I thought why not that seemed to be a pretty good suggestion since it’s been months since we’ve seen each other so I told them to go ahead and made the invitation Official.
This morning my wife was talking about her plans once the baby is here and that’s when I remembered my conversation with my parents. I immediately told her that I agreed to let them over for a week once the baby is born to make up for the holiday we missed with them. She first looked shocked then freaked out at me saying I shouldn’t have invited them just like that without talking to her first.
I asked why not since she loves them and loves being around them but she explained that my family can be a lot of work and having them as guests while caretaking for a newborn is the last thing she wanted. I told her it was no big deal besides that we could use help if she thought about this way but she lashed out on me about how the first few days of the baby’s life is essential time for bonding and being intimate and I just took that away from her by inviting my parents and invading her space.
I argued that she was being melodramatic right then because my family are decent people and I’m pretty sure they’ll make this experience a lot more warmer but she still disagreed and said if my family were decent then they wouldn’t have accepted my invitation but I clarified to her that I did NOT invite them and this was in fact a suggestion made by them and I just agreed AFTER they complained about me missing spending the holidays with them.
She went off on me demanding I call them and cancel everything I planned with them but I thought that was unacceptable since she did not give a good-enough reason for me to do that and besides my parents can help but she still denied that being true.
She’s gone radio silence for the rest of the day and is acting like my family are somehow making her uncomfortable though they’re not the judgemental or intrusive type and are just about spending time with each other.
I was very hurt by her stand and then I messaged my sister who I am very close to about the whole argument. This was her reply:
UNTIL YOU PUSH A HUMAN OUT OF YOUR BODY AND SUFFER THE PHYSICAL CONSEQUENCES OF IT YOU ABSOLUTELY DON’T GET TO MANSPLAIN THAT IT IS NO BIG DEAL AND NOT GOOD ENOUGH REASON.
Your wife will have just pushed a fair sized melon out of her body. There is a good chance she will have been torn or cut. There is a good chance she won’t be able to sit down. She will potentially be in a diaper and have walnut size clots of blood coming out of her body. There is a chance that the bathroom will not be guest ready after she has been in there because it will look like an abattoir are you cleaning up every time she goes in there.
Her milk will come in on about Day 5 which is often extremely painful, causes a huge hormonal surge and causes the milk blues. Her nipples will not yet have hardened up and might crack and bleed.
Your baby may be an angel but then again it may not you wife might be feeding very very frequently meaning she won’t sleep she will be exhausted, look like sh*t and cry a lot.
You think none of this is a good reason to not want to host guests. In short the only people who should be staying with you are people who have seen her naked and could actually help her in the bathroom like her mother, sister or husband.
And don’t worry about our parents. I will explain to them and they will surely understand. Take care my brother, we will meet soon.
Finally I understood, gave my wife a kiss on her forehead and said don’t you worry i will cancel the plan for now.
What do you think about his decision?