Life is unpredictable. It’s unimaginable pain when you lose your loved one. People gather at funerals to share their feelings, but finding the appropriate things to say/do at a funeral isn’t always simple. Read this story to know what the brother told his sister at her husband’s funeral and let us know if you agree with her decision.
My late husband passed away from a car accident when I was 4 months pregnant. It’s been difficult without him but my family did so much to support me. I moved in with them a month after.
At the funeral, My older brother asked for a minute to talk then asked me if I really wanted to go through with my pregnancy. I was shocked when I heard this but even more shocked when he suggested that I “make the right decision, not an emotional decision and reconsider having my son”. he gave many reasons why including the fact how “single/widowed mom” are considered too much of “baggage” for so many men to date. I lost it on him and kicked him out. That was the last time we saw each other.
My son is now 3 weeks old. Whole family met him and were happy to welcome him. My parents asked if I could let my brother come meet my son even for a few hours. I refused but they said I was making a mistake robbing my son of a future loving relationship with his uncle. They asked that I don’t let my emotions dictate a decision that might have a lasting impact but I said no.
My extended family got involved and started pushing especially after my brother started insisting saying my husband was a dear friend of his and what I’m doing right now would make my husband upset if he saw it. Am I being bitter and selfish?
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