Anyone who has had a teen understands that parenting an adolescent is full of ups and downs. Read this story and let us know how you would handle the situation.
My stepson (19) got a new car from his bio mom. She and her family are well off and unlike me, they could afford to buy a car. I’m happy for my stepson but my son (17) isn’t. In fact he complains about how unfair it is for my husband to let his ex gift their son a car but not him. It’s unreasonable I know! but teenage years are mostly hard and it’s even harder to expect the kids to be reasonable.
My son wanted to take part in driving the car as a “compromise” or else we would have to get rid of it. I sat him down to explain to him that the car is his stepbrother’s property, and he shouldn’t be expecting to drive it unless he’s given permission. He was having none of it and kept giving us ultimatums saying he either share the car with his stepbrother or the car goes.
When my husband confronted him, my son went and did so much damage to the car, he threw paint on it, ruined the lights and damaged the front of it completely. My stepson had a breakdown when he saw it in the morning and husband was beyond livid after seeing the footage from our driveway cam and seeing my son damaging the car.
My husband confronted my son later and all my son did was laugh and give him the middle finger. I went to take all of his camp savings for this summer to pay for the damages and gave them to my husband. My son found out and went batshit on everyone in the house. He accused me of stealing then trying to please my husband for “sex” then told his stepbrother that he warned him and so he shouldn’t be blamed. He also said it was my fault for not getting him a car or getting my husband to get him a car in the first place to avoid favoritism and conflict.
He’s been spending the majority of his time in his room refusing to come out or eat anything. I’m worried about him not eating because he did this once and ended up in the hospital for low bp. What should I do? Can I even do anything?
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