This Mother Confessed About Her Daughter’s Bully Behaviour.
My mom and her mom were friends when we were kids in Girl Scouts (we played together but went our own way more and more when she started to become mean). There was this community event about bullying for Girl Scouts I think and my mom went to support the organizer and because I’d been bullied for years. She wanted to find ways to support me and resolved troop conflicts. This friends mom went and my mom saw her, she’s since left the troop and it had been a few years, and was surprised. Asked her if her daughter had been bullied too. She responded “no, my daughters become a bully and I’m embarrassed. I want to understand why she’s doing this and try to teach her how much she’s hurting others.”
My mom was really really impressed because this woman, prior to this conversation, was kind but rather aloof and ignored a lot of the previous “young girls picking on each other in Girl Scouts/clubs”, passing it off as just normal kid issues. It was almost like she’d finally flicked a switch and realized that her daughters behavior had been progressively getting worse over the years and she, as a mom, had just ignored it until it got to a very serious point. I’m not sure what came if it, but from other people who went to high school with her, she apparently became less of a true bully and started to act more kindly. I always wondered how those conversations went…