Erica made a post to Facebook and it went viral. It was certainly a post she did not want to make public, but she felt she absolutely had to.
She posted about losing her husband, and at the very young age of 26, she was now a widow. She lost her husband to something that completely blindsided her… she had no idea. And, yet, it was true.
Her husband, Tyler, was an addict, and he died from an overdose. She found him lifeless this past June 27th. She had absolutely no idea he had been using. There were some signs, of course, but because of the type of person Tyler was… it just didn’t make any sense.
Erica said that Tyler was fun, he made her laugh, and he made her feel whole. So losing him to something like this… addiction… was just hard for her to comprehend. He was only 29 and he had dealt with quite a bit of heartache in his life; lots of burdens carried on his shoulders. But he and Erica were building a wonderful life together and it seemed like nothing could stop them. And then, this.
Says Erica: “Addiction does not discriminate. Addiction does not settle for the weak, for the selfish, nor for the heartless. Addiction comes too for the strong, the selfless, the ones who carry everyone’s weight for them.”
And though it might be so hard for some to take that they would want to sweep it under the rug, Erica chose not to. She did not want to lie about it. She wanted her post to go out there and reach as many people as possible. To let others know that addiction is something we all must face openly and honestly. She had an amazing husband and an amazing marriage, but he fell to addiction.
Adds Erica: “We have spent far too long pretending it is a choice. Pretending we are immune. Pretending that if we do not face it, it will go away. But it won’t… If you are struggling with addiction, know that you can reach out to me. Nothing is too messy, or too raw. If you know someone who is struggling, take action. Speak to them early, often, and with grace. Life is too short to live in fear of judgment.”
Her post, as mentioned earlier, went viral. It has been shared more than 27,000 times and there are nearly 10,000 comments to it. And that’s good. Because the more people who know about it, maybe… just maybe… it will make a difference.