My wife has been putting in 10-14 hour days chained to her computer for the past 2-3 weeks through weekends as well. (EDIT- to clarify the last 2-3 weeks have been 100+ hour weeks, the whole year has been bad with lots of lost weekends and working over vacations). Wasn’t able to take any days off for the holidays either. She’s been screaming obscenities about her job, how she wants to quit, how it’s ridiculous she’s working so hard without any break. There have been multiple tear filled days.
I have been walking on eggshells doing everything I can to help around the house and get her anything she wants. But I am on edge constantly watching for an explosion.
Today (working through the weekend again) she was screaming about other people she worked with screwing her up and I just couldn’t take it anymore. I texted her boss (EDIT – we work at the same company and I’m semi friendly with him already) and said 1) there are limits for human beings, 2) this kind of thing can’t happen again next year. He agreed and said he’d try to help.
Either way, he did a crap job of keeping me out of his conversation with her about limits today. So she found out I’d messaged him ASAP. (EDIT- yep that’s me complaining about getting caught red handed, IATA)
Now she’s telling me it was extremely misogynistic to message her boss to say she can’t handle her job (which I didn’t say) and it’s going to set her career back years. Says she can’t ever trust me anymore to talk about work or how she’s feeling. Generally threw me in the doghouse.
Am I A Jerk here? I honestly don’t know. I can’t stand to see her strung out by work, but did I cross the line too far? Am I Wrong ?
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