It is acceptable to have guests remain at one’s house for an extended period of time. However, a line must be drawn and not crossed. In your bedroom, each individual has the right to privacy. But what if someone continues to violate your privacy despite your gentle reminders? How would you react? Read the narrative and tell us if you agree with the wife’s approach to the problem.
My f29, husband’s m34, best friend (Jacob) m30 moved in with us. He’s quiet and doesn’t make a mess around the house like BIL used to while he lived with us. However, Jacob has this habit of walking into the bedroom randomly to take stuff from my husband’s closet. say a watch or a shirt. He does it more frequently and it’s gotten increasingly annoying. I felt like my privacy was being violated because I’m a private person, I’d like to have quiet time reading or meditating. I tried to speak up on the issue but got brushed off by both of them.
Last week, Jacob barged in at 11pm and interrupted my sleep. I was sleep deprived the whole day at work. I got fed up so what I had decided to do is start sleeping on top of the bed full naked whenever I’m in there. Last night, Jacob walked in at 10pm while I was there and when he saw me, he let out a loud “sh****t” and quickly turned around and rushed out. I started hearing a commotion outside so I got dressed to see what was going on.
I was met with a lot of yelling and scolding and shaming from my husband saying I was out of line to expose “his brother” to “such horrendous sight”. I asked what he meant and he yelled at me to stop acting dumb. I said I felt frustrated after my privacy got violated and he went on about how Jacob was only there to grab something which literally takes seconds. then went on about how I made him uncomfortable while describing my behavior as “[email protected]”. The argument got heated and he told me to start putting some decent clothes on and act like a lady instead of a sl$t since it’s his room too and he already gave permission. I got mad and told him loudly that I will keep sleeping on the bed naked as long as his friend keeps walking into the room then I walked off.
He didn’t stop complaining and complaining saying I’m being ridiculous and even suggested that this was an attempt from me to make Jacob move out. Did I go too far here? We’re still arguing about it until this morning.
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