Wife Tells Him If He Wants MIL In The Delivery Room, He Can’t Be In There Either.
Giving birth to a child is indeed a beautiful experience but at the same time an unimaginably painful process. Every woman at that time would prefer her husband only and at times her mom. In this story a couple has an argument on who should be there in the delivery room. Read the story and let us know what do you think about this situation. Any advice…
For context, I (34f) am currently about 6 months pregnant. I am pregnant with my husband’s second child. Me and my MIL honestly have a pretty bitter relationship. She doesn’t approve of me or my family background. When I was having my first child my husband had asked me if I had considered letting my MIL be in the delivery room. I told him absolutely not and afterwards he never really brought it up. I ended up having my husband and my mother there with me as support.
Me and my husband are now discussing who I want in the delivery room and I told him I was fine with the same arrangement I had last time. My husband was clearly not happy about the decision as I could clearly hear him mumbling something under his breath. I asked if he had a problem with the arrangement. He actually spoke and claimed he did. He stated it was massively unfair that I would allow my mother in the delivery room but not his.
He mentioned that since I got to choose who was in the delivery room last time he should get to choose who gets to be inside of the room this time. I told him he was insane if he thought I would let his mother see me in extreme pain. It would be an incredibly uncomfortable situation. He was incredibly upset and left the house. I’ve been trying his friends to see if they have seen him recently but without any luck.
I contacted my MIL but she said she had absolutely no idea that my husband wanted her in the delivery room in the first place and that she hasn’t heard from him in a while. I’m honestly kind of freaking out both from stress and guilt. I’m worried that my husband isn’t okay but I also can’t help but to feel guilty that I drove him away. I don’t know if I should stay with my current decision anymore. Please tell me if I’m wrong ?
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