When you lose a friend, we console the friend’s spouse and assist him or her as needed. However, everything has a limit. What if a woman is uncomfortable with her husband assisting a friend’s widow? Read the narrative to find out what occurred and how you would handle such a circumstance.
My husband’s friend passed away months ago. Leaving behind his widow wife. My husband considered him a brother and so he began offering help to his widow and showing up literally every weekend (that’s when he’s off work) to help her with everything.
It didn’t bother me…I mean not much but still. Now he told me that it’d be nice if we invite her to christmas dinner with us since she has no family and other friends are busy. I refused but he insisted saying it’d mean so much to her especially since this is her first christmas without her husband and we should comfort her. I refused and said that it’s supposed to be a family celebration and my family will show up so there’s enough guests already but he said she is the one who needs this family atmosphere the most. I snapped and firmly told him I will not agree to let him invite her to christmas dinner with us and he needed to drop it cause it made me uncomfortable.
He argued then started sulking about it saying that I was being cruel for no reason and that he wasn’t asking for much. just an extra chair/plate for her. But I said it will be awkward for me and my family especially since we’re not so close.
What are your opinions? I need some advice on if I’m wrong…
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