When it comes to disciplining their children, parents frequently differ. One half of a relationship may believe there is an obvious way for children to learn a lesson, while the other half may believe it is completely ineffective. When stepparents discipline their stepchildren, things may get even more problematic. Read this story and let us know what you think about the situation.
My ex wife and I parted shortly after the birth of my 9 year old daughter, we also have a 12 year old son together. It wasn’t a messy breakup in the slightest, she just fell out of love, and we still maintain an incredible friendship today. Co-parenting with her is easy, we have 50/50 custody (no courts involved) they spend a week with me and then a week with her, we live close by anyway anyway and they love the arrangement. My ex wife and I both agreed on the way we would raise and punish our children should they misbehave that way the structure stays consistent and we don’t have one parent favoured over the other.
I’ve been dating a girl for around 7 years now and she’s always been amazing to my children, last December we got married and things were fine up until now. Last week my daughter stole 2 pockets full of chocolate from a little corner store, where as my ex and I would have marched her into the store, return the chocolate to the owner and apologize, my new wife took my children home, sat my daughter at the table and forced her to eat the entire lot by herself, making her brother watch. She continued to make my daughter eat even after she’d complained of a belly ache. My son told me when I got home from work.
I immediately confronted my wife, telling her that my ex and I both had a system in which to discipline our kids and that she has absolutely no choice in that, that if she’s to punish the children she goes by our agreed upon methods. It keeps everything consistent and I didn’t appreciate her making my daughter feel sick (she slept all night and skipped dinner because of her stomach). My wife is extremely upset and says I can’t expect her to be married to me and not have a say in how they are raised, I again repeated that how they are raised is up to me and my ex and she should respect and follow those methods.
I got the silent treatment for a few days before she said she just couldn’t handle the sight of me anymore and went to stay with her mother. Of course her mother is now calling me a Jerk and saying that I’m treating her as an unequal parental figure in the house and that she should have a say in how the kids are raised as well considering she’s the stepmom. I spoke to my ex about it and she agrees with my stance and thanked me for standing up for our choices and defending our agreement. Do you think the stepmom did the right thing? What would you do in his situation? Here are a few comments on the story where it was originally posted: