Woman Labels Him Selfish When Husband Wants To Travel Rather Than Continue With Chemo.
Living life to the fullest is what an individual desires. Being sick can make a person feel low but being positive and living the life one wants is important. Read this story of a man who does not want to do more chemos instead wants to travel. Let us know your views on this.
Im a 36 year old man with acute myeloid leukemia. The initial chemo put it into remission, but it’s now come back and it’s not stopping.
I have been on my second run of chemo for two years, and there has been little to no improvement. Just delaying the inevitable. Most people with leukemia die after 5 years. Mine is even worse.
I feel sick everyday. I used to lift regularly and now all my muscles are basically gone with excess grandma skin on my arms and legs.
I lost so much hair at the top of my head I just started shaving it off.
I cant have sex with my wife anymore, when i try i cant maintain erections. I have pissed myself multiple times over the years in my sleep. I can’t eat steaks anymore because of my stomach.
I can’t play with my daughters and everytime i go to one of their soccer matches I get weird looks and take all the attention off of them.
I just dont have any fight left anymore. I repeat to myself everyday, “its over, and that’s ok”.
The truth is I haven’t accomplished much in my life. I wanted to be a writer when I was younger but I ended up as an office manager at a car dealership. I always said I would do it later but then the years sort of piled on. I had one life and I wasted it, but so do most people I guess.
I am proud of my wife and daughters. They make me very happy. They haven’t accepted that it’s over yet but I have. My wife means well but she wants me to stay in treatment long enough to put it back into remission again. I dont see it. I just think we need to come to terms with this.
I do not just want to lay in bed all day. I want to travel for the years I have left. See the country. Maybe go to Italy, Japan or the uk. I want to experience this planet in ways I never thought about before.
I told my wife this and she says I’m being selfish and I’m giving up. I dont see it that way, I feel more alive now than I’ve felt in a long time. I feel like I have no fear of trying scary things or writing a book or travelling to a jungle.
I’ve spent so many years wasted. She says she won’t stick by me if I do this. Am I A Jerk?
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