The holiday season may be full of brightness, beauty, and warmth, and it should be spent with those you care about. If it’s one’s first Christmas with his/her fiance’s family one hopes for the best. But what if you are a picky eater and you have dinner plans with the future-in-laws. Read the story to know what happened between this woman and her future mother-in-law and how would you deal with this situation?
I got invited to my fiance’s family Christmas celebratory dinner. It’s my first Christmas with them. I have always been picky about what I eat. Can’t help it and it has to do with psychological factors, childhood, and personal likes and dislikes. Before accepting their invite I let FMIL know that I wouldn’t be eating the traditional food at their celebration, and showed her a variety of dishes to choose from to accommodate me.
She refused and told me to bring my own dish. I said if I had to bring my own dish when I’m a guest then I better stay at home then. We went back and forth and I insisted I wouldn’t come if accommodations weren’t being made. I just thought it was a simple request and FMIL would have agreed if she really wanted me there. My fiance agreed that I should bring my own dish but I didn’t.
When we arrived there and I saw that no accommodations were made I got up, got my things and walked out and went home. My FMIL and fiance were shocked. I got tons of calls and texts from them both and my fiance came home lashing out calling me selfish and spoiled to walk out like that over a dish that his mom didn’t have to make for me. and that it was my responsibility to feed myself. How is it my responsibility to feed myself when I’m a guest? Makes no sense to me. I told him this and he accused me of starting sh*t and ruining my first christmas with his family and disrespecting his mom.
Now he’s continually saying I fu**ed up and should’ve sucked it up for the family’s sake.
ETA to clear few points:
- For those saying I have no respect for my inlaws. I do, especially FMIL. I respect her but this is so far the biggest conflict we had.
- I work long hours even on holidays so not much time to cook.
- I wasn’t asking for an elaborate dish or several dishes. Just one simple option.
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