In-law relationships may be challenging to manage. In this story found herself in a standoff where neither individual would confess they’d crossed the line. It all started when her mother-in-law dropped by unexpectedly. While the woman and her husband welcomed the lady into their house, she chose to spend the night there and insisted that she be allowed to sleep in their bedroom. However the wife was not at ease with having her mother-in-law in her bed. There was also a fully working guest room. The MIL, on the other hand, doubled down and refused to take no for an answer. Read the story and let us know what you think about this situation.
My husband (m34) and I (f26) got married 9 months ago, we live in a different town from his parents, and his mom visited us unexpectedly on friday. Now to give some context about my MIL, She is okay-ish but has no respect for her son’s privacy and by extension, mine.
When it was time to go to bed, MIL requested that we let her sleep in the bedroom, on the master bed, not just that but lock the door as well because she explained she can’t feel comfortable enough to sleep without locking the door. I found this bizarre but I politely declined and suggested other options like the guest room, couch and air mattress but no she turned around and presented these options to me. My husband agreed but I said no. This initiated an argument between her and I. During the argument I pointed out how I didn’t want to be kept out of my room and away from my stuff but she lashed out at my husband saying “Don’t you just stand there! Say something!”. My husband told me to let her have it’s just one night, but I told her those were all the options I had for her and if she didn’t like them then I could book her in a hotel. She took it as if I was kicking her out and started crying which made my husband upset.
She left at 12am and my husband blew up saying I disrespected his mom who was a GUEST at our house and treated her poorly, he then reminded me it’s our bedroom not just mine and I acted horribly to her causing her to go stay at a hotel in the middle of the night. He went to book a room in the same hotel as her and turned his phone off. The next day she went home and told the family who berated me calling my behavior towards MIL abhorrent and loathsome, now my husband is complaining about how I keep trying to ruin his relationship with his family and push them away.
But I want to know if I was really in the wrong? Please don’t be afraid to criticize. Thank you for your time in advance.
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