Two parents in the U.K. spent 16 days with their deceased baby girl in an experience that they claim helped them mourn.
Parents Charlotte Szakacs, 21, and Attila Szakacs, 28, were given the shocking news that baby Evlyn had a devastating chromosome anomaly after a 20-week scan. Evlyn lived only four weeks after her birth as she was born with an underdeveloped brain, narrow airways in her nose and lungs and a narrow aorta and eventually she yielded to her illness at an England hospital.
Charlotte said that she has never really felt like a mother after her daughter gone. She said that it is hard to explain as this does not feel real and she is now just empty.
The family used a method that keeps a baby’s remains cool so that the baby doesn’t get worse as quickly in order to spend time with their daughter after she passed away even taking her out for walks in her pram. The couple spent 12 days at the hospital with her and four days at home where she slept in the cot in their room before her funeral.
Charlotte said that so many people have not once heard of parents being able to spend that time with their babies and other mothers reached out to her saying they think it would have helped so she really want to increase awareness. She further said that she knows it might not be the best option for everyone but for them it was so vital to be able to have that family time and just well cuddle their little girl.
Charlotte said having that time with Evlyn made a difference for her emotionally. She said that she was really nervous about bringing her daughter home because she didn’t know if it would feel right, but it was so nice to have her at home. Charlotte said they removed Evlyn from the ventilator the day they entered the hospital and that she was calm and peaceful.
Parents said that they got to hold her and cuddle her properly for the first time for an hour before doctors turned off the ventilator. Evlyn she passed away just a couple of minutes after they took out her breathing tube. She was so weak that she didn’t take a single breath. Charlotte was holding her in her arms as she went. While Charlotte said would give whatever to have her daughter back with her but she said that she knows Evlyn is in a better place.