My f30 sister f35 passed away 2 months ago. She has 2 kids (3&5) and I help take care of them by either visiting BIL’s house or have them come over to mine.
Days ago, BIL left the kids with me for the day then called in the evening asking if I could have them stay with me for the night. I of course agreed. The kids and I fell asleep while we were reading a story and then at 1am. I woke up to some noise. I opened my eyes and saw my BIL slowly climbing in bed . I freaked out asking what he was doing. He tried to calm me down then said that he saw the kids were with me and wanted to “join us”.
This did not sit right with me…I was confused. I asked how he thought this was an appropriate thing to do and he again said that his kids were there so he didn’t think I’d mind him being with them. I felt extremely uncomfortable so I got up and asked him to please leave the room but he objected saying “I can’t keep him away from his kids” I told him that I’d have the kids join him in a minute. He eventually walked out. He had the kids get dressed and took them home after calling what I did “unnecessarily cruel” and “rude”.
Next day I tried to call to check on the kids but he was still upset saying they were asleep after I interrupted their sleep by refusing to let him join us in bed. I hung up and felt so many things all at once. I told my mom and she said I had to apologize for how I behaved towards my grieving BIL. Am I Wrong for saying no?
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